Of course, I have no idea how his life will unfold.
The two speakers at the meeting last night were husband and wife. Both their stories would have made the hair of the uninitiated stand on end, but the woman had a great comeback tale. Years ago I would have judged her life a wasted one. She had fallen behind everybody. Her using years were depraved, no better or worse than my own son. If she had been my daughter, I would have been devoted to trying to fix her.
I don't know when it changed for her, but I do know how. She had a spiritual awakening. Last night she was poised, articulate, grateful, and sober.
God's plan for Andrew
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And you will not have to do anything as difficult as realizing you have to let Andrew go and live the life that is meant to be his life.
Ya know I've never once thought about the "falling behind" aspect. I will probably obsess on that now ;)
had to cut & paste from my friend Cec..
Another great post. I just wanted to say that many people don't get their life together until they are in their late 20's or early 30's. Sometimes later. I'm sure I drove my mom crazy with my "I'm going to be a rockstar" attitude. I needed to get that out of my system and it wasn't until I was about 28 that I really gave it up as a viable option for employment. Then I went to school late and now think of myself as a somewhat respectable person.
A good friend of mine who is a couple years older than me, 48 if I remember correctly (he lives in Elkhart, Indiana) was in his mid 30's before he really got his shit together. Before that he had DUIs and got in a lot of fights. Another great story of a 28 year old finally getting his life together is on my blog today.
So, I just wanted you to know that you are not alone in this. Some of us just take longer than others to find out who we are. Hope your day is grand.
Cedrorum
I got clean and sober at age 35!
turning it over is so hard. thanks for sharing your experience.
It's never too late and will happen in God's time not ours. Hang in there Lou.
I needed to hear that today. My son stayed at my house last night. He is clean (I think) but he is so lost. I think that he has used so long and so much that it has effected his brain, literally. We actually did have a good evening of conversation which I enjoyed. It is still so hard to see a young man, so full of love and joy at one time, so faithful to his work, just looking for a woman to love and love him, and now he is a lost soul.
I got clean and sober at age 40...but I didn't get my sh*t together until...until, until____________what the heck! (Fill in the blankety-blank-blank yourself.)
I was told, that I needed to know WHAT, and HOW, but never to question WHY, unless it's the doctor'a opinion: "Men and women drink essentially because they like the effect produced by alcohol." So simple.
Since Andrew is a druggie (is that correct?) I do not know if the same thinking applies. I am an alky.
Bravo...I like your attitude.
We are allowed to have hope and I hope that your son and mine do find their way to Him and sobriety some day.
In the meantime, I'm going to live my life.
Lou,
God's timing is always perfect. He has a plan and I'm sure it's better than anything we could imagine. Just keep the faith and continue to ask for God's will in Andrew's life. There are a whole lot of people pulling for him and most importantly praying for him. One day at a time....
I found my way in at 49. My friend Bob found his way in at 53. He recently turned 85 with 31 years of sobriety.
I love that photo, I used it years ago for a post. I think I used it for acceptance.
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